Many people become slaves of the approval of others. In fact, they need it so much that it dictates everything from the clothes they wear, the career they pursue, what they eat, even their social media posts are based on getting the 👍🏽 or ❤️ from their friends, peers, or followers.
Truth: Not being yourself will destroy you.
For many people, the risk of embarrassment is too much to handle. The truth is that if you want to become a more secure person, you should lean into criticism.
If you want to become a better version of yourself, accept you’re going to get laughed at. People will dislike you. They will try to bring you down, for reasons you don’t understand. That’s OK. The more you know this, and the more you learn from them, the faster you’ll improve. Anthony Moore
Critics will always be your best teachers. They will be brutal in their honesty. And believe it or not, in their attempt to hurt you, what they will also reveal are the best parts of you.
- You get to choose what to do with your time. You aren’t forced to go to work, see the doctor, or attend a family gathering. There will be consequences if you don’t do some of those things, but they’re still choices.
- You decide who to allow into your life. If you grow resentful of people who take up too much of your energy, it’s a sign you aren’t setting clear boundaries.
- Holding on to anger from the past allows an individual to occupy space in your life. Don’t waste your mental resources on others.
- When someone doubts you, it can be tempting to make it your mission to prove them wrong. Make sure your purpose is about your desire to succeed, not about convincing people that you’re more valuable than they gave you credit for.
- Stay true to your values. Do not let others have a negative influence over you.
- If you value other people’s opinions too much, you avoid doing anything that may lead to criticism. It’s impossible to live your best life when you’re focused on pleasing people.
- Some people won’t like you or your choices. You don’t have to let their opinions affect how you feel about yourself.
Remember, when other people dislike you, it means you’ve grown and evolved. It shows that you’re an important player, someone to be acknowledged.
Any time you allow someone to have a negative influence over the way you think, feel, or behave, you give them power over your life. It will rob you of the energy you need to reach your greatest potential.
Be like Elsa, let it go!