Oh yes, I am going there…Because Marie Kondo…
Seriously speaking, that $$$ handbag that you just had to have. Those black pumps more like the 6 different ones, you had to have because every designer has their own version… Trust me, I’ve thought up every excuse to justify compulsive shopping because pre-kids, it used to be therapy.
There are many treasures we’ve tucked away in our closets either because we love them so much, that you don’t want to part with them, we’ve worn the bijeezus out them, or is there another reason?
Just 2 months ago I let go of maternity jeans because, just in case my tubes got untied, I’d be ready…really? My kids are 10 and 6 years old. It’s. Not. Happening.
So now that’s it’s become trendy to purge, isn’t it time you got back to a more balanced state of buying? What you need, when you need it, as opposed to what you want, when you want it?
Believe me, I’ve been there. Doing the irrational, buying a new pair of shoes for my son’s 6 month checkup, stocking up on paper towels before having a ‘heart to heart’ with my husband (yes, I have ‘a thing’ about stocking up on paper towels and toothpaste), and I could go on. But here’s the truth: that all felt really good and fun, and it soothed me -for a minute.
As much as I love fashion, I questioned if it was rational to follow it to the point of buying compulsively. When I got really honest with myself, I knew in my heart it wasn’t.
When you increase your awareness of abundance, you will be able to soothe your desires for what you want, with the validation of what you already have.
Here are 3 ways you can start to do just that:
- Think abundantly. When you’re stressed, your nervous system desires nesting, feeding, grooming, therefore: buying. If you focus on how much you have, buying compulsions remain dormant.
- Make a list. Do it before you head to the store and stick to it. Take a friend with you if it means it will help you to stay on track.
- Practice Moderation. Clear out, use up or donate/get rid of what you don’t need. Marie Kondo it.
The more you become used to this way of dealing with stuff, you’ll start to meet your need by “shopping” amongst the things you already have. Mix old clothes for new looks, put new pictures in old picture frames.
This way of living is way more creative than continuing to buy. It can also make you feel fabulously capable too.