Motherhood Secret: Coming Clean

I loved being pregnant. But little did I know that when my son came into the world my life would never be the same. THAT was the problem. I remember holding him in my arms, crying, feeling like the luckiest woman in the world. But when I laid him down to sleep, I wondered what would become of me, who would take care of me. 

I alienated myself even more from the already small universe I had created for myself after moving to NY from DR. Self sabotage became very comforting. This had nothing to do with my family, but it had everything to do with me. I didn’t know what to call it or how to deal with what was happening to me.

Having talked about my feelings with friends and gathering the strength to attend a support group of new mothers in my local church, I came to the understanding that I was suffering from Postpartum Depression.

I had heard of the term but must admit feeling ashamed for a while of accepting the label and that I suffered from it. Women commonly have mood changes during pregnancy, especially after delivery. These mood changes may be caused by changes in hormone levels. But many non-hormonal factors may also affect mood during this period:

  • Changes in your body from pregnancy and delivery
  • Changes in work and social relationships
  • Having less time and freedom for yourself
  • Lack of sleep
  • Worries about your ability as a mother

One morning in 2009,  I reflected on how I was able to shift feeling the way I did about motherhood. While receiving support from other moms and  making jewelry which I enjoyed doing earlier in my life and now while my son napped, more and more women became interested in my pieces and my business was born.  
I had a new sense of purpose for myself: the opportunity to connect to other women through my art. 
These connections and support groups are why today I am so passionate about the enV CHICA Movement.  A chica carries herself with a Caring, Hermosa (beautiful), Inspiring and Can do Attitude. She lives her life trying to do the best that she can. 


it took me some time to become comfortable enough to talk about this, but I can tell you my story is being heard because other women, like me, need to know that it’s ok and that you are not alone. 
Your support can change someone’s life for the better. Please join our community on  Face Book and help us continue spreading the word. 

We can band together to connect with each other and support one another, one wrist at a time.
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  • Women really need to know what they are experiencing isn't a stigma, but part of the change our bodies and lives undergo. The important thing is to open up and ask for help. Postpartum Depression is very really, very powerful. The first step is to ask for help and and find a support group. It's great that your church offered that. Many women hide behind the feeling of shame you talked about. It's time we throw back the covers, and see that we are not defined by Postpartum Depression. We are strengthened by it.

  • Thank you Shelly for your comment. It took me a while to simply be able to admit to it. But, the truth is soooo liberating; especially when we live our truth. I encourage you to spread the word because there are still many women who live in fear and shame. Enough!

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