That $$$ handbag that you just had to have. Those black pumps (or 6 diffeent ones, because every designer has their own take on a black pump)…that look good all year round, no matter what you wear…that little black dress…and the little red one, and blue one…?
These, and I am sure many more are little treasures we’ve tucked away either because you love them too much, that you don’t want to see them fade…or you’ve worn the bijeezus out them. Or is there another reason?
Are you really going to wear those jeans you haven’t fit into since high school? Do you really need 6 black pumps? Number one, those jeans are completely out of style, and two…really, why are you still hanging on to them?
I know you’ve heard the phrase “Out with the old, in with the new” hundreds of times, but how about: Out with everything you don’t need.
Isn’t it time you got back to a more balanced state of buying? What you need, when you need it…as opposed to what you want, when you want it?
It may not be logical to buy a new pair of shoes for my 6 month OBGYN appointment, or stock up on paper towels when it’s tax time; but those things soothed me. Momentarily.
As much as I love fashion, I questioned if it was rational to follow it to the point of buying compulsively. It isn’t.
By increasing your awareness of abundance, you will be able to soothe your desires for what you want, with the validation of what you already have.
Here are 3 ways you can start to do that:
1) Think abundantly: when you’re stressed, your nervous system desires nesting, feeding, grooming, therefore: buying. If you focus on how much you have, buying compulsions remain dormant.
2) Make a list before you head to the store, and stick to it. Take a friend with you if it means you’ll be able to stay on track.
3) Practice Moderation: clear out, use up or donate/discard what you don’t need.
As you become used to this way of dealing with stuff, you’ll start to meet your need by “shopping” among things you already have. Mix old clothes for new looks, put new pictures in old picture frames.
This approach harnesses far more creativity, than continuing to buy. It can make you feel proudly capable too.