Category: In Between

To sadness
Thank you for allowing me to feel
And to be connected to all that surrounds me

To anger
Thank you for reminding me of my strength
And my capacity to defend myself
And speak up for myself and others when necessary

To fear
Thank you for alerting me to potential danger
And for caring about my safety and security

To guilt
Thank you for revealing to me
What is in need of changing, fixing and mending in my life
So that I may respond accordingly

To dissatisfaction
Thank you for empowering me
To grow and evolve
And reach for greater heights
Beyond what I could previously do or be

To confusion
Thank you for showing me
Where I am in need of gaining greater understanding and clarity

And to regret
Thank you for providing a roadmap
To redirect me toward a greater destination
Through showing me what I don’t wish to do or repeat.

I see now
That you are not my enemies
But my greatest teachers
Guiding, assisting and uplifting me.

By Tahlia Hunter

Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll be less wanted.

Maybe they will forget you completely.

Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will cease.

Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for days and weeks.

Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve.
That doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship. It means the only thing that sustained a relationship was the energy you and only you put into it. That ain’t love. That’s attachment.

The most precious and important thing you have in your life is your energy.

 

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When you start showing up for your life completely and completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone is going to be ready to find you there.

The truth is, you’re not for everyone, and everyone isn’t for you. That’s what makes it so special when you find the few people with whom you have a genuine friendship, love or relationship: you’ll know how precious it is because you’ve experienced what it isn’t.

I took a punch during a kickboxing class + I’ve been nursing a terrible shoulder injury since February. I could barely lift my right arm for weeks. Tried PT, got a bit of motion back, but the pain has been constant. So bad some nights it would wake me up.

Through @bellamag.co, I found @beautyandbodynyc founded by @b_helmandi + after 1 visit, I can -after 7 months- fully raise my arm. The pain is minimal + what’s constant now is the relief I feel 🙌🏽 something as simple as opening a drawer, brushing my hair or putting on a T-Shirt was excruciating 😖 not today.

Thank you Dr. Bushra 💪🏽 excited to also welcome you to the BELLA family 💛

When you’re not attached to praise or criticism, freedom is yours ✌🏽
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Cuando no estás apegado a los elogios o las críticas, eres libre ✌🏽

#onlyacceptingblessings

Boot weather is here + I shared my top 5 styles under $150 on @pix11news 👢

 

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You do everything for everyone all the time. You give and give and give and never ask for anything in return. You try so hard to make everyone else happy. Does this sound like you? Are you always going out of your way to keep the peace?

 

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We all want to be considerate and thoughtful, but when we only speak or act in ways we think other people want us to because we need them to think we are nice, is a complete disservice to yourself AND them.

Here are 3 reason why:

1. Being too nice keeps you from having close relationships.

When we don’t speak up or show up as who we really are it actually keeps us disconnected and feeling lonely.

No one will be able to connect with you in an honest, deep, and meaningful way if you are not yourself.

People thrive on connecting with REAL people. We want and need real. And yes, real sometimes can get messy, but it’s human.

2. Being too nice leads to a victim mentality.

It takes courage to stand up and say, “This is who I am, this is what I need, and this is how and what I can and want to give.”

That’s a better and healthier approach than keeping inventory about how many times you’ve been nice to others and/or feeling ripped off if other people don’t treat you the same way.

You are responsible for yourself. If you want or need something, it’s your responsibility to voice that. We can’t expect others to read our minds to see how much we think they owe us because of how nice we’ve been to them n the past.

3. Being too nice makes you a stranger to yourself.

When we navigate life trying to make everyone else happy and never consider our desires, we are rejecting and neglecting who we really are.

It’s not always about you, but it’s also not ever not about you.

If you never allow yourself to play an active and equal role in your relationships and in your life, you will never give yourself the opportunity to appreciate your true self.

Lesson: Practice being more genuine and authentic with others and yourself. Practice sharing your thoughts, opinions, and ideas…and here’s the big kicker…do it even if some people may not agree with you.

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not,
you don’t.
If you’d like to win,
but you think you can’t,
It is almost a cinch that you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost;
For out of the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will. It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you’re outclassed, you are;
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before you can ever win the prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster wo(man);
But sooner or later
the wo(man) who wins
Is the one who thinks s(he) can!

God knows how hard I’ve worked to get here.

 

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