Category: In Between

Photography Jessica Cirz for BELLA Magazine’s 2022 Mind, Body + Spirit Issue

“My job sucks.” “The economy is terrible.” “I haven’t made a sale in weeks.”

If you can relate to even 1 of these statements, I am sorry to say but you have probably become a victim of your own negative thinking.

Have you ever considered that maybe the only thing stopping you from having a life and business you love is precisely that, negative thinking?

Truth: It’s not the lack of resources or the ‘uncool’ mom you had as a kid or the other excuses we use to justify for not having the life we want.

We all have reasons to feel bad at any time during our day. I get it, circumstances change for better or for worse in a flow of events. And naturally, we react to those circumstances just as we’ve been taught to by our families and friends.

So does how we react to any given situation matter? Your reaction is energy and energy is everything.

Everything you see, sit on, feel -the sun on your face, your kid’s laughter, your morning jog, prayer, a kiss…it is all source energy, source energy is where everything and everyone originated.

You are made up of this same energy. Its frequency can be raised or lowered according to your thoughts, feelings and beliefs. Therefore, the frequencies you send out attract similar frequencies. What you put out, you receive…ring a bell?

Each of us has an energy sequence: negative on the bottom and positive on top.

Positive energy includes:

1. Our brilliance,
2. Goodness,
3. Divinity,
4. Inspiration,
5. Love, passion,
6. Optimism,
7. Happiness and
8. Joy (our connectedness).

Negative energy includes:

1. Anger,
2. Depression,
3. Sadness,
4. Guilt,
5. Pessimism,
6. Sense of lack -not just from others, but from our source energy.

We go up and down on this energy sequence everyday, depending on our circumstances. We may think or say, “If only I had X, I could be or do X.” And the ultimate joke is that if we ‘get happy,’ our circumstances will change to meet us. Not so much.

Moving up on your energy sequence by shifting your energy to a higher frequency and opening up to source energy connects you to your inspiration, spirituality and goodness. It has the power to change your life immediately!

From the low end of your energy sequence you can’t even think about doing things you love, let alone muster up the energy to go out and find it.

From the high-end of your energy sequence, you’ll get new ideas, tap into your light and inspiration, connect with the people you need to see, and get into the flow of positive energy that guides you through ‘a good day’ and therefore ‘a good life.’

So, how do you flip the funk?

The first step is catching yourself. Then, you redirect your thoughts. Use positive affirmations every time you notice yourself thinking negatively. I personally love these:

1. I am.
2. My life is abundant.
3. Wonderful opportunities are coming into my life today.
4. Today is a great day because I opened my eyes.

I am pretty notorious for using humor to approach difficult situations. It’s something I learned from my father and incredibly, my children have picked up on it too. Humor is also a very effective way to raise your energy sequence, therefore making you better able to respond to any situation.

I know it sounds easier said than done, but I promise you, these small shifts will help elevate you. Remember, YOU and only YOU are responsible for the energy you bring into your life and your business.

Here’s to living fabulously Chica!

Have you ever wondered?

1. How our worth depends on how much we do?
2. How we admire sleep deprived workaholics?
3. How bad we feel when we say no to party invitations?
4. How guilty we feel  if we’re not available to take someone’s call?
5. How we think we’re being lazy when we sleep in or spend the day indoors?

It’s fair then to conclude that we’ve bought into the idea that we should always be busy. We’ve also bought into the idea that when we’re not busy, we should be socializing or catching up on the news. I call bullshit!

Our biggest problem is not that we don’t do enough. Our biggest problem is that we do too much of the wrong things. We do not do enough of the right things.

Being busy actually makes you less productive. Multitasking for example, it actually slows you down. It increases the chances of mistakes.We think we’re getting more done, but our brains aren’t physically capable of it.

You see, the truth is you can have it all -just not all at once. Every decision you make has an opportunity cost. When you choose one thing, you aren’t choosing several others. Whenever you hear someone say that you can have it all, know that they are lying. They are almost certainly trying to sell you on something. In the end, we need to choose what matters most to us, and own that. If we attempt to be everything, we’ll end up being nothing; that internal conflict is hell.

We should be living a life of introspection. A life that allows us the opportunities to take the right actions. A life where inaction should be our default mode. Inaction is actually where we should be, until the right action becomes clear.

I am beyond ecstatic to be in the process of writing my third book titled  The Bullshit Of Busy + I look forward to sharing it with you soon!