Category: In Between

The human ego is the ugliest part of our humanity. We lift up those who only show us darkness, and put down the brave ones who show us the light.

We abandon those fighting for us to cheer behind those fighting against us. And, we only remember good people and God when it is convenient for us. We take them for granted because their doors are always open – only to chase after closed doors and personalities void of substance and truth.

What we see in the outer world is a reflection of what we see inside our inner world. Other people’s perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.

Lesson: What you say about me, you’re really saying about yourself.

Many of us tend to see ourselves through other people’s eyes. In one way or another, virtually everybody craves being admired. We live in a meritorious, American-Idol-type society that celebrates others when they’re deemed exceptional. Insert cancel culture here when they’re not.

There will also be people who have benefited from you who will act like they ‘did it’ or ‘made it’ without you. Hence, why some of us can only feel good about ourselves when we put others down.

The reality is that some people who live with trauma have a limited capacity to connect with others. The reality also being that the disconnect has nothing to do with you.

We all want to hear a drum roll beating for us when we’ve done something well, demonstrated a skill or talent, behaved generously or selflessly.

We need to learn how to also play that drum roll -for ourselves.

#makemorecake #book #author #writing #comingsoon #selflove #keepitmoving

I know your instinct is to do everything you can to win the good thanks of everyone you can, but it’s also the drive that will steal your time, energy, and sanity.

You’ll start to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and everyone you meet is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.

Make your life a safe haven where only people who can care, listen and connect are allowed.

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#lifeisbella #protectyourenergy #keepitmoving #happymonday

To sadness
Thank you for allowing me to feel
And to be connected to all that surrounds me

To anger
Thank you for reminding me of my strength
And my capacity to defend myself
And speak up for myself and others when necessary

To fear
Thank you for alerting me to potential danger
And for caring about my safety and security

To guilt
Thank you for revealing to me
What is in need of changing, fixing and mending in my life
So that I may respond accordingly

To dissatisfaction
Thank you for empowering me
To grow and evolve
And reach for greater heights
Beyond what I could previously do or be

To confusion
Thank you for showing me
Where I am in need of gaining greater understanding and clarity

And to regret
Thank you for providing a roadmap
To redirect me toward a greater destination
Through showing me what I don’t wish to do or repeat.

I see now
That you are not my enemies
But my greatest teachers
Guiding, assisting and uplifting me.

By Tahlia Hunter

Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll be less wanted.

Maybe they will forget you completely.

Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will cease.

Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for days and weeks.

Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve.
That doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship. It means the only thing that sustained a relationship was the energy you and only you put into it. That ain’t love. That’s attachment.

The most precious and important thing you have in your life is your energy.

 

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When you start showing up for your life completely and completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone is going to be ready to find you there.

The truth is, you’re not for everyone, and everyone isn’t for you. That’s what makes it so special when you find the few people with whom you have a genuine friendship, love or relationship: you’ll know how precious it is because you’ve experienced what it isn’t.

I took a punch during a kickboxing class + I’ve been nursing a terrible shoulder injury since February. I could barely lift my right arm for weeks. Tried PT, got a bit of motion back, but the pain has been constant. So bad some nights it would wake me up.

Through @bellamag.co, I found @beautyandbodynyc founded by @b_helmandi + after 1 visit, I can -after 7 months- fully raise my arm. The pain is minimal + what’s constant now is the relief I feel 🙌🏽 something as simple as opening a drawer, brushing my hair or putting on a T-Shirt was excruciating 😖 not today.

Thank you Dr. Bushra 💪🏽 excited to also welcome you to the BELLA family 💛

When you’re not attached to praise or criticism, freedom is yours ✌🏽
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Cuando no estás apegado a los elogios o las críticas, eres libre ✌🏽

#onlyacceptingblessings

Boot weather is here + I shared my top 5 styles under $150 on @pix11news 👢

 

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