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Why Me?

Post author By vcoppes
Post date February 19, 2016

I do everything for everyone all the time. I give and give and give. I never ask for anything. I try so hard to make everyone else happy. Why doesn’t anyone try to do anything for me? I never ask for anything, I guess no one sees my value…”

Does this sound like you? Are you always going out of your way to keep the peace? Heck, I know that this was me at one time.

In a recent INC. article, Julia Kristina MA, RCC, explains that those sentiments don’t come from a mature, responsible, emotionally healthy individual. In fact, being nice and giving, giving, giving all the time can make you feel cheated or mistreated when, other people don’t lay down their lives for you, when you feel like you’ve done a lot to deserve it.

Please, don’t misunderstand me. My mantra is: “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” Be considerate and thoughtful, but only doing or speaking or acting in ways we think other people want us to because we need them to think we are nice is a complete disservice to yourself AND them.

That behavior almost always leads to problems. Here are 3 reasons to understand why:

1. Being too nice keeps you from having close relationships.

When we don’t speak up or show up as who we really are it actually keeps us disconnected and feeling lonely.

No one can connect with you in an honest, deep, and meaningful way if you are not yourself.

People thrive on connecting with people. REAL people. We want and need real. And yes, real sometimes can get messy, but it’s human. This is certainly a choice.

2. Being too nice leads to a victim mentality.

I do everything for everyone all the time. I try so hard to make everyone else happy…blah, blah, blah. Anyone?

It takes courage to stand up and say, “This is who I am, this is what I need, and this is how and what I can and want to give.”

That’s a better and healthier approach than keeping inventory about how many times you’ve been nice to others and/or feeling ripped off if other people don’t treat you the same way.

I am responsible for myself, and guess what? You are responsible for yourself. See how that works? If I want or need something, it’s my responsibility to voice that. I can’t expect you to drag it out of me, and definitely not expect you to read my mind to see how much I think you owe me because of how nice I was to you.

3. Being too nice makes you a stranger to yourself.

When we go navigate life trying to make everyone else happy and never consider our desires, we are rejecting and avoiding who we really are.

It’s not always about you, but it’s also not ever not about you. There are times and places for both.

But if you never allow yourself to play an active and equal role in your relationships and in your life, you will never give yourself the opportunity to appreciate your true self.

Turns out you might even realize that when you look in the mirror, you are uncertain of whom you see.

So give this a shot: Practice being more genuine and authentic with others and yourself. Practice sharing your thoughts, opinions, and ideas…and here’s the big kicker…do it even if some people may not agree with you.

Be kind to others, but also be kind to yourself!

Did you find this helpful? Please share! Do you have a question or comment? Please write me below!

Biz

Go Back To Basics With these 5 Small Business Marketing Tips: Run Your Own Race

Post author By vcoppes
Post date February 4, 2016

Marketing in today’s highly competitive world is challenging. Standing out from the crowd of competitors can be difficult. And if you believe that you aren’t making an impact, ask yourself:

Are you simply following the marketing trends?
Are you trying anything and everything?
Are you actually researching your competition to see what they are doing and what is working?

No? Then Houston, we have a problem.

While it’s even more difficult to compete in the digital arena, especially with big brand names, how can a small business compete effectively?

Simple: You can’t be complacent and wish that you’ll become number one in your market. Your success will actually depend on the research and marketing plans you create and put into action.

You need to run your own race by getting back to and mastering the basics whenever you think about your marketing strategy. If you don’t do the basics well, you will never succeed with the advanced tools available now.

You can’t run before you crawl.

1: Look At Your Competition, but Don’t Obsess

You need to know who your competition is and what they are doing, but what you also need to know is how you can do it differently and better.

2: Research & Analyze Your Industry

More than researching your competition, you need to research and analyze your industry. Do you know the the trends and what is coming up for the next 6 months to a year? Be proactive about these things so you can be prepared before they happen.

3: Be Unique

Your offering must be different than that from your competitors. What’s “your juice”? You are at a disadvantage if it doesn’t stand out. It’s time to re-think what makes you stand out.

Offer something different that can be seen as better than your competitors in at least one way. Maybe you are more affordable but offer more value, or you provide a different service. Either way, you need to have that one thing that makes you stand out.

You can also be unique in how you market yourself. You have to be if your product or service is exactly the same as your main competitors. Think about ways to market differently and stand out that way as well.

4: Develop Your Online Brand & Image

In today’s competitive market it is not enough to have cute business cards, brochures and a website. You need to develop your brand and image. There are many ways to do this:

Invest in a killer website. Even if this means outsourcing, please…just do it.
Invest in Content Marketing and SEO Services.
Create a company culture that will speak for you. That’s the power of building a solid brand.
Develop a strategic business and marketing plan: implement, track, tweak when necessary (see break down below).

5: Create, Implement, Track and Tweak Your Business And Marketing Plan

No business will survive forever if they don’t take the time to do the basics right. Creating a business and marketing plan is where everyone should start. Then, implementing and actually utilizing, and tracking your plans and budgets.

One of the biggest mistakes you can make is not taking this part seriously.

Maybe you developed a budget, but then you never actually look at it until it’s too late. The same goes with your business and marketing plans – you create or hire someone to build them, but then you never follow through and actually use any of the startegies.

Most of these tips you know and I;m pretty sure, you’ve heard them before, but may have forgotten about. After mastering the basics very well, then you can branch off and kick more ass by breaking the rules from time to time. While it is not easy to be unique and run your own race, the fact is that that very statement is what will set you apart from the crowd.

“The way you step up your game is not to worry about the other guy in any situation, because you can’t control the other guy. You only have control over yourself. So it’s like running a race. The energy that it takes to look back and see where the other guys are takes energy away from you. And if they’re too close, it scares you. So, that’s what I would say to my team all the time: Don’t waste your time in the race looking back to see where the other guy is or what the other guy is doing. It’s not about the other guy. It’s about what can you do. You just need to run that race as hard as you can. You need to give it everything you’ve got, all the time, for yourself.” Oprah Winfrey

In Between

A Dog Named Blue + The Power Of Social Media

Post author By vcoppes
Post date January 30, 2016

So the story begins with Edwin Devia who started a Go Fund Me Campaign 8 days ago:

“Hey everyone. I found this guy roaming the streets of Newark. Hungry, alone, cold, and thirsty. He would walk up to kids wagging his tail and they would just run away in fear. I walked up to him and he had this sadness in his eyes as if to say ‘why doesn’t anyone want me’ ? It took almost an hour for him to trust me enough to get into my truck. I already have two dogs and if I had the room I’d keep him. I dropped him off at the Newark shelter. I found out later that they have an 80% kill rate if the dog doesn’t get adopted quickly. He’ll be up for adoption in 7 days. This money is for his check up, shots, neutering, adoptions fees, some food, doggy food and water bowls, a leash and some treats. I’m trying my best to find him a forever home and with your help it can be done!”

The campaign was shared +7.5K times.

Through Facebook… it reached my best friend in the Dominican Republic who tagged me on the post. I saw his face, then read ‘they have 80% kill rate at this shelter if the dog doesn’t get adopted quickly’…my heart sank.

I knew I had to do something, even if it was just to help get him home.

The next day I called the shelter (just like 3oo+ people) and asked if he was still there. They told me he was and I set out to visit “Chance,” as Edwin had named him. I found out he had not been claimed and that he would legally go up for adoption in a few days. He seemed strong, very strong and sad… Anxious to get outside and soooo sweet.

He had me at first glance. I then started working him into my home. I showed his picture to my husband and kids and thought that Blue would be a cool name because his coat looks navy blue. Tomás (my 7 year old son) came home from school that day and said that if we got him, we should name him “Blue” Coincidence? I beg to differ.

I was concerned about his size and most importantly, his demeanor around my kids…my gut kept telling me however that adopting him would be the right thing to do.

Pictured: Edwin, Blue, Vanessa, My kids and Olga

Pictured: Edwin, Blue, Me, My kids and Olga

Thank you Edwin for not turning away from him. Thank you for taking the time to get the word out and thank you to everyone who shared and donated to the campaign.

Please take a look below at what social media has done!

If you’re considering getting a pet, please visit your local shelter. For more information on where to rescue your first or next fur-baby, go HERE! To donate, go HERE!

Blue came home today. He is beyond beautiful and such a good boy! Larissa (who has spent several years rescuing animals in our native DR) I am forever grateful for the virtual nudge! I think Blue rescued us too.

In Between

Personal Branding vs. Self- Promotion

Post author By vcoppes
Post date January 26, 2016

A personal brand is something you work on many levels to build. The first thing you need to do is get to know yourself better. Then you need to understand what you want to communicate to your target audience -before even opening your mouth (or posting in social media).

It’s very simple really. A personal brand is a vision. And when you open your mouth to speak about your brand, it should become all about the message you’re trying to transmit -not about hard-selling yourself.

While self-promotion is an extremely important part of building your brand (if no one knows of your accomplishments or the company you work for, then how are they going to do business with you?), it also seems that the biggest factor separating personal branding from shameless self-promotion is value.

If a person provides value with his/her content, then all the self-promotion is justified because people will benefit from the content.

Once you really understand your values and know what you want your brand image to be, then you will understand that over -promoting your services will hurt your brand.

You must align your communication and overall message with your target audience, not only the message.

Don’t feel that it is wrong to provide information about the content that you provide. Just make sure that it is targeted to the right audience an be personal while doing it.

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Back to the Grind: 10 Productivity Tips to Help You Get $#!t Done!

Post author By vcoppes
Post date December 29, 2015

It’s back to the grind. Kids are off to school (insert happy dance here) and therefore -naturally- we feel that our own schedule will get back on track.

But how do you prioritize? How do you decide which task to tackle first?

Truth: A key differentiator between people who succeed in their business and those who do not is personal productivity. Leaders and entrepreneurs who are consistently making things happen know how to achieve what they want in less time than others. I recently stumbled upon an American Express Forum article, detailing what highly successful entrepreneurs do every day. I was pleasantly surprised at learning that many of these tips are already a part of my day to day, therefore I wanted to share them with you.

There’s a lot to be learned from the tactics of successful, and incredibly busy, individuals on how to better organize our own days. Here are 10 things you can start doing today:

Pick 1 task to focus on. One thing many successful entrepreneurs have in common is the ability to focus on what matters most. Pick one thing and do that one thing.
Block out distractions. Period. Martina Navratilova says, “I concentrate on concentrating.” If you don’t have the willpower to be self-accountable, try Rescue Time. It is an application that runs in the background of your computer and measures how you spend your time so you can make better decisions.
Set a strict time limit on meetings. In general, people don’t need as much time as they ask for. Meetings can be time vampires. So, be cut-throat when it comes to managing your time so you can focus on high value tasks.
Set up productivity rituals. Many of you know I swear by waking up earlier than most consider normal. You also know that because of this, there are tasks that are done by 6am. Therefore, setting up rituals that automate behaviors, make us more productive – without depleting our energy reservoir. 4am may not be your cup of tea, but force yourself to prioritize so that you know that you will finish at least that one critical task during the period of the day when you have the most energy and the fewest distractions.
Get up earlier. Research shows that mornings can make or break your day. Use the mantra “mind over mattress” to motivate yourself to get out of bed to pursue your goals.
Outsource personal chores. Highly productive people are selective about how they expend their energy. They don’t waste time or energy on tasks that others can do. Do a cost/benefit analysis of how you spend your time and see if it’s worth offloading some repetitive tasks so you can focus on what will bring value to your company.
Increase your effectiveness through technology. There’s a plethora of programs to make a small-business owner more effective in increasing productivity. A few popular tools—some of which are free—include Dropbox to store files online; Any Meeting to host a webinar and Hootsuite or Buffer to schedule your social media postings.
Don’t say yes to every request. Most of us have a deep need to be liked. That translates into us saying yes to everything – which is the end of your elite productivity.
Stop multi-tasking. New research confirms that all the distractions invading our lives are rewiring the way our brains work. Be one of the rare-air few who develops the mental and physical discipline to have a mono-maniacal focus on one thing for many hours. It’s all about practice.
Learn from others. Understand that for you to move to your next level of success, you must be in constant student mode. Whether you’re learning from others, attending school, reading books, attending seminars or taking a course, you have to gain access to the information you don’t know so you can get to where you want to be.

Your productivity is your life made visible. Protect your time, your energy, your business, your life.

Do you have a question? PLEASE, let’s connect HERE or leave me a comment below!

Life

Negative Self-Talk, How To Stop It Before It Spirals

Post author By vcoppes
Post date October 20, 2015

It takes very little time to find posts that will tell you about mindfulness, the power of positive thinking and/or the motivational mantras of highly successful people.

Truth: They only tell half of the story.

What happens to the many people who read those stories and instead of being inspired, they come away feeling even worse than they did before?

The conversation in their head immediately shifts to ‘Why me?, I’ll never be like that. I don’t have the money those people do. They’re way more invested than I am.’

That has a name. It’s called negative self-talk and we are all guilty of it.

There are 4 different types of negative self-talk: filtering, personalizing, catastrophizing and polarizing.

Filtering is when you take out anything positive about a situation and magnify only the negative.
Personalizing is when you make a situation all about yourself or another specific person even when it has nothing to do with either. Here’s something to think about: most people you come across really don’t have the time or the desire to go out of their way to make you their target or your day miserable.
Catastrophizing is taking one negative situation and exaggerating its effects on the big picture.
Polarizing is when a person sees only bad or good and no middle ground in any situation.

So how do you stop this cycle?

One of the best books I’ve read is “The Four Agreements ” by Don Miguel Ruiz. He explains the first agreement as being the most powerful one and the most difficult to honor, “Be Impeccable with Your Word.”

Simple, yet so difficult to do.

Your word is the power you have to create. Through your word you manifest everything. Words can set you free or ensalve you. Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself.

We have learned to lie as a habit of communication with others and more importantly with ourselves.

Negative self-talk gets in our way. It latches on and can and distract us from our goals. Negative self-talk can convince us that there’s no point in trying, because we’ll probably fail anyway.

Negativity can only grow in your mind, if it finds fertile ground to do so.

You have the power to change how you speak to yourself and exactly what you say. You can transcend negative self-talk by simply saying that you will do so, right now!

Seeing the positive in any situation comes in equal proportion to the amount of love you have for yourself.

Here’s to living fabulously Chica!

Do you have a question? PLEASE, let’s connect HERE or leave me a comment below!

Life

10 Rules for Far Fighting

Post author By vcoppes
Post date October 13, 2015

This past Sunday, I sat on my comfy couch in my bedroom, like I do every Sunday to indulge in some SuperSoul Sunday (Yup! I watch a few Dr. Phil episodes which air right before). One of his shows led me to some online digging and I found some basis for this post I had drafted a few days earlier. It’s interesting how life gives you what you need, when you need it.

Arguing is a fact of life. How you argue can determine the long-term success or failure in any kind of relationship — especially how you end an argument.

Dr. Phil says that a primary requirement for any fight is to maintain control. You do not have the license to be childish, abusive or immature.

You are entitled to give a reasonable voice to your feelings in a constructive way. Disagreements are going to occur. The question is, do you go into it with a spirit of looking for resolution or do you go into it with a spirit of getting even, vengeance, control? You’ll never win if you do that.

If you make your relationship a competition, that means your spouse, colleague or friend has to lose in order for you to win.

The truth is that it’s not a competition. All of these different types of relationships are in fact a partnership.

So the next time you find yourself in an argument, here are 10 rules to follow:

Fight by mutual consent. Don’t insist on an argument at a time when one of you can’t handle the strain. A good fight demands two ready participants. Agree when to stop and start the argument.
Stick to the present. Don’t bring up past mistakes that nothing can be done about.
Stick to the subject. At the time of the argument, address one issue at a time.
Don’t hit below the belt. Attack the issue, not the person. Treat each other with mutual respect during the argument.
Don’t quit, work it out. Bring the fight to a mutual conclusion. Otherwise, it will just reoccur.
Don’t try to win, EVER. If one wins, the other loses. That builds resentment about the relationship. Avoid ultimatums.
Respect crying. Crying is a feeling just like smiling. Don’t let the crying sidetrack you or then make the argument about the crying. Crying is a valid response to how we feel.
Don’t involve others. Only those directly involved in the conflict need to be in the discussion and attempt to resolve it.
Agree to disagree. Every issue won’t be resolved but appropriate discussion of issues can lead to increased understanding.
No violence. Physical violence violates all of the above rules.

Dr. Phil says that how an argument ends is crucial. Learn to recognize when an olive branch is being extended to you — perhaps in the form of an apology or a joke — and give the other person a way out of the disagreement.

You have a choice. Arguments should be temporary, don’t let them get out of hand.

In Between

How Your Energy Affects Your Life and Business

Post author By vcoppes
Post date September 29, 2015

“The economy is terrible.” “I haven’t made a sale in weeks.” “My job sucks.” If you can relate to even 1 of these statements, I am sorry to say that you have become a victim of your own negative thinking.

Have you ever considered that maybe the only thing stopping you from having a life and business you love is precisely that, negative thinking?

Let’s get real: It’s not the lack of resources or the ‘uncool’ mom you had as a kid or the other excuses we use to justify for not having the life we want.

We all have reasons to feel bad at any time during our day. I get it, circumstances change for better or for worse in a flow of events. Naturally, we react to those circumstances just as we’ve been taught to by our families and friends.

Now you may be wondering: Does my reaction matter?

Your reaction is energy and energy is everything. Everything you see, sit on, feel–the sun on your face, your kid’s laughter, your morning jog, prayer, a great kiss…it is all source energy, from where everything and everyone originated.

You are made up of this same energy, and its frequency can be raised or lowered according to your thoughts, feelings and beliefs. Therefore, the frequencies you send out attract similar frequencies. What you put out, you receive…make sense?

Each of us has an energy sequence: negative on the bottom, positive on top.

Positive energy includes: our brilliance, goodness, divinity, inspiration, love, passion, optimism, happiness and joy (our connectedness).

Negative energy includes: our anger, depression, sadness, guilt, pessimism, sense of lack -not just from others, but from our source energy.

We go up and down on this sequence everyday, depending on our circumstances. We may think or say, “If only I had X, I could be or do X.” The ultimate joke being that if we get happy, our circumstances will change to meet us.

Moving up on your energy sequence by shifting your energy to a higher frequency and opening up to source energy connects you to your inspiration, spirituality and goodness. It changes your life immediately!

From the low end of your energy sequence you can’t even think about doing things you love, let alone muster up the energy to go out and find it.

From the high-end of your energy sequence, you’ll get new ideas, tap into your light and inspiration, connect with the people you need to see, and get into the flow of positive energy that guides you through your dream life.

So, how do you flip the funk?

The first step is catching yourself and redirecting your thoughts. Use positive affirmations every time you notice yourself thinking negatively. I love these:

I am.
My life is abundant.
Wonderful opportunities are coming into my life today.
Today is a great day because I opened my eyes.

I am notorious for using humor to approach difficult situations. It is also a very effective way to raise your energy sequence making you better able to respond to any situation.

I hope these tips help elevate you today because remember, YOU and only YOU are responsible for the energy you bring into any space.

Here’s to living fabulously Chica!

Do you have a question? PLEASE, let’s connect HERE or leave me a comment below!

Life

The Deceptive Narrator

Post author By vcoppes
Post date August 25, 2015

The most powerful stories may be the ones we tell ourselves -but beware, they’re usually fiction. Brené Brown

The last month has been nothing short of challenging in both my personal and professional environments. I firmly believe that as much as you try to separate personal from professional, that very dance can consequently be more stressful than the situation you may be dealing with.

I am not going to get into the dirty details of how my life has taken a 360º turn, what I will get into is how important it’s been to listen to and tell others the stories of how we’ve gotten to where we are today.

It’s no coincidence that I picked up the September Issue of O Magazine where Brené Brown, Elizabeth Gilbert and others get into the importance of storytelling and how the very act of listening is where we turn for encouragement in how we live.

You see, stories are the glue of what we are. They stitch together what we become. Our ability to tell them is fundamental to how we celebrate and examine our lives. Sharing our stories reminds us of what we believe in and helps us make sense of a fickle world.

According to neurobiologists, our brain turns into a carnival when we tell our stories; lights switch on in our heads. Through the simple act of telling we are reimagining ourselves. This happens even more spectacularly when we hear the stories of others.

We tell each other what’s happened to us not only because we want to know we’re worthwhile but because we want others to feel worthwhile too. Everything could be taken from us this instant: our home, our identities, our health, our loved ones -but our stories remain.

Our stories are also about self-preservation. You see when we feel threatened, we run. When we feel exposed or hurt, we find someone to blame. We even blame ourselves first before anyone else can. This is where ‘The Deceptive Narrator’ comes in. This unconscious storytelling leaves us stuck: We keep tripping over the same issues and when we fall, we struggle to get back up. We tell ourselves lies and we believe them.

The fabulous news is that this is also where resilience comes in. We have the ability to rewrite these stories by challenging these confabulations. The truth is we just have to be brave enough to get dirty with ourselves. Brown explains it as reckoning with our emotions. When you do, you can change your narrative. She gives 4 steps to do just that:

Engage with your feelings. You don’t need to know exactly where the feelings are coming from, you just have to acknowledge them.
Get Curious About the Story Behind the Feelings. Ask yourself: Why am I being so hard on everyone? What happened right before this Nutella craving set in? Why am I obsessing about what Samantha said? While this step may be difficult, know that the only way to get to the truth is by pushing through discomfort.
Write It Down. Get your thoughts on paper. A story driven by emotion and self-preservation doesn’t involve accuracy, logic or civility. If it does, then you’re not being completely honest.
Get Ready To Rumble. Like I say ‘Let’sRoll!’, this is where you get dirty. This is where you ask yourself questions like: What are the facts? What are my assumptions? What do I need to know about the others involved? What am I feeling? What part did I play?

For me, this past month has been one of radical introspection. I’ve been rumbling with my shame, my blame, my aggression. I’ve been reckoning with acknowledging that these emotions exist in me more than I’ve been willing to admit, but not to others…to myself.

Interestingly enough, you might learn that you’ve been masking shame with cynicism or that being vulnerable and asking for what you want is more enticing than basking in resentment. Resentment bottles up a world of confabulations that you begin to believe.

Confronting yourself, your fears, your aggression, shame and blame can be difficult. Getting to these truths is uncomfortable, but it’s the road to meaningful change.

Owning our stories can be hard, but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it…Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

Brené Brown

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“The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It.” + FOMO

Post author By vcoppes
Post date July 9, 2015

“How could you not know about Samantha’s dad? It was on Facebook!”

Insert look of WTH? How did you NOT know that Samantha’s father won the lotto, that Amy’s starting a new business or that Fernando (your high school friend’s little boy) just started walking?!?! HUH?!?!

Apparently, everybody out there is living it up -except you.

The FOMO plague…it’s here and I realized that, even my kids have caught the FOMO bug.

Listen, it’s hard not to. With a swipe of your mobile device it’s revealed to you that EVERYBODY else (except you) is doing something A.W.E.S.O.M.E.R. than you are (Yes that’s a word…ask Tomas). I mean, it never occurred to you that you could build a snowman in the desert, until you saw your BFF from elementary school crowd funding for the device she invented to make ice in the desert, right? Why didn’t you come up with that one?

And at that moment, FOMO swoops in, twerks right in front of your eyes and then waves and laughs at your inability to keep up.

It’s no coincidence that I came across an article written by Martha Beck in O Magazine back in 2013. Beck explains that we may argue FOMO to be healthy motivation. But the first of FOMO’s 4 letters is fear -the opposite of healthy. Fear can get us moving, but never happily. Living in fear doesn’t improve the quality of your life; it haunts us, makes us tense and actually shrivels our internal organs. So how can we live within the FOMOsphere? Glad you asked.

Martha gives 3 phenomenal strategies that I want to share with you:

1. Realize that FOMO is based on lies. The life that you think exists for others, doesn’t really exist. The internet and media bombards us with an endless montage of momentary highs disguised as everyday activities. Evaluating other people’s real life experiences by their carefully curated instapics or selfies is like trying to navigate with binoculars that only show mountain peaks. When you feel FOMO, right there and there, remind yourself that what you are seeing is likely not to be happening. The whole truth is that many of us will spend hours mustering up the energy to take a shower today. No one wants to take a picture of that. But THAT there is the truth.

2. Fight FOMO with FOMO. Our feelings and behaviors are created by the words we use. Redefine the meaning of FOMO:

Feel Okay More Often
Find One Magnificent Object
Focus On Melting Open

3. Stop. When you feel FOMO creeping in, STOP. Close your eyes, breathe, center yourself. Realize the present moment and the blessings around you. See abundance, not lack.

What you’ve really been missing is today…that heartfelt talk with your high school girlfriend over coffee, reconnecting with your partner, tickle sandwiches with your kids (you should try them, they’re awesome!).

Listen to the whispers of your real inner voice that is telling you to chill, to be open and then you’ll realize how much is already available to you.

Have you caught the FOMO bug? What have you done to stop it in it’s tracks? Would love to hear from you. Leave a comment below.

I delve deeper into how to flip the funk and repel FOMO in my book. You can get it HERE.