With every experience I encounter (positive or negative), I always try to look for the lesson it is trying to teach me. There is a lesson in everything we experience. Absolutely everything!
In life and in business, we connections with others. Some of those connections will turn into different types of relationships, which will teach you many lessons -too.
How you build on those relationships -meaning you don’t just call that person when you need something, is key to sustaining a healthy bond. With time, you will realize that having a relationship, goes far beyond “friending” someone on Facebook. In this digital era, I know it can become confusing.
Relationships are 2 way streets. You show up for people, they show up for you. You support, they support in return. You smile, 9 times out of 10, the other person will smile back.
So in any scenario you are in, are you giving? Are you just taking? Or are you giving with the expectation of receiving?
You shouldn’t measure what you give, you shouldn’t expect a return either. My experience has been that the people who are meant to help you shine your light in this world will show up for you, as you will for them -2 way street, remember?
Relationships are not transactions and remember:
- When your giving is taking too much out of you, then you are trying to give more than you are capable of.
- If you allow yourself to be drained of energy, you will have less to give.
- If you are giving because your help is needed, then simply accept the relationship for what it is. Your giving will add value to who you are but that doesn’t mean it will turn into a relationship with that person. Do a gut check and be honest with yourself and the other person. Be aware of why you are in that relationship in the first place.
- If your giving has conditions, then that’s really not very generous, is it?
Who you are relates to how much you give of yourself without losing yourself. How are you showing up in your relationships? It correlates to how you show up in the world. Because how you do anything is how you do everything.